Why Gen Z Is Saying Goodbye to Flashmobs and Embracing 'Quiet Proposals'

The age of flashmob proposals, viral engagement stunts and extravagant surprise reveals may be drawing to a close — at least if Gen Z has anything to say about it.

A new wave of "quiet proposing" is reshaping the jewelry industry and the traditional expectations surrounding engagements. Less about spectacle and more about shared intention, this trend reflects the core values of a generation (born 1997 through 2012) intent on authenticity, communication and equality.

According to a recent survey by British jeweler Diamonds Factory, more than 50% of engagement ring shoppers in 2025 are now accompanied by their partners. The days of one partner secretly selecting a ring in hopes of getting it just right are fading fast. Instead, Gen Z couples are leaning into a more collaborative approach, ensuring the ring reflects both taste and intention.

This shift marks a major cultural moment. Where Millennials and Gen X often celebrated grand proposals engineered for "likes" and applause, Gen Z is quietly rebelling against that narrative. Many young couples are saying "no thanks" to lurking photographers and Instagram-perfect lighting, opting instead for personal moments that carry deeper meaning.

“It’s not that romance is dying,” says Ella Citron-Thompkins, jewelry expert at Diamonds Factory. “Rather than rejecting love, Gen Z is redefining it — favoring intimacy and shared decisions over performance. Quiet proposing is about creating a private, intentional memory instead of putting on a show.”

The motivations behind this change are multi-layered. Financial prudence plays a role — many Gen Zers are grappling with student debt, rising rents and economic instability, making lavish gestures feel out of step.

But the heart of the trend lies in emotional alignment. Couples are more likely to discuss marriage beforehand, aligning on timing, values and even ring design long before the actual proposal.

For Micaela Beltran, a Gen Z entrepreneur, the choice was easy. “We worked with an independent designer and created a ring together," she told Newsweek. "No staged moment, no surprise audience — just a decision that felt true to us.”

Her sentiment echoes across the generation: love doesn’t need to be loud to be real.

And the jewelry industry is taking note, as the demand for custom-designed rings is growing and more couples are visiting showrooms together. In fact, Diamonds Factory's survey revealed that only 18% of ring shoppers now go solo.

This shift isn’t just about changing who buys the ring — it’s redefining the entire engagement narrative. Gen Z is setting a new tone: proposals aren’t performances, they’re conversations. And in that quiet space, a more meaningful commitment is taking shape.

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